Earlier today, as I was reading the Weddingbee blog, I found a post by Miss Sunbeam entitled "Suit Yourself!" Like me, the author is getting married this fall, and had originally thought of fall colors. However, her fiancé was sure he wanted to wear a navy blue or black suit. She didn't identify navy blue with a fall color, and since the wedding wasn't going to be "super formal," she wasn't feeling the idea of a black suit either.
Inspiration struck the author when she found photos of men in a wedding party wearing just vests and white striped shirts (no jackets). To summarize, the couple have settled on a non-traditional look. He will be comfortable as will his groomsmen, and his fiancé is supportive. Miss Sunbean closes with the question,
Are your men going jacket-less for your wedding? Did you give your guys freedom to pick out their wears or did you pick it for them?
Since my fiancée and I are planning a non-traditional wedding, we've been confronted and reminded of wedding traditions, mainly by our mothers. In many cases, we've altered our original thoughts because some wedding traditions make a lot of sense. In other areas, we are sticking to our guns. We want our wedding to be a reflection of our personalities and we want our guests to feel both honored and comfortable at the same time.
In terms of what we're wearing, she lucked out and found her dress early. And now I'm getting to the reason I found the "Suit Yourself!" article so interesting. One of my favorite colors is orange. We're having a fall wedding. Orange is a fall color. I'd like to wear orange. Is that odd?
I want to be informal and non-traditional. But I know I need to look good and I owe that to my fiancée and our families. We decided on a look that I'm really happy with. I think it's a fall look. The orange is represented on my tie and vest. The jacket and pants are dark brown with subtle pin strips. My shirt is cream colored. If we sold the shirt at LCI, we'd call it Ecru. ;-) I'll be in black patent leather shoes. The cuff links are gold and black. I'm 30 pounds lighter than I was a couple years ago, so I'm especially happy with the way I look in the tux. I'd include a photo, but my fiancée took them with her Palm Pre and the quality isn't good.
I'm sure she's happy with the look, but I'm also sure that her happiness comes partly from the love she has and her motivation to make me happy--to show support for my decision and my taste. Isn't that cool? She weighed in and helped me choose the components, but but she allowed me to have a non-traditional look for my wedding, and for her wedding.
So ladies, how do you weigh in in terms of giving your fiancé the freedom to do something different with his attire on your wedding day?
Joshua Birch
josh@lcipaper.com
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